The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour. I'm giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post.
"Purpose is the place where your deep gladness meets the world's needs."
- Frederick Buechner
Back in high school, I used to be on the wrestling team. Being both an honors student and a meathead was both a blessing and a curse as I knew a ton of the different moves on the mat, but I was much more likely to think than to act. Knowing all of the moves was cool and all, but if they didn't flow from one to another more quickly than the other guy, you were dead meat. We called the ability to move quickly from one move to the other without having to think as "chain wrestling."
For a long time, I knew a lot of the things that I wanted to do in life, but I didn't feel like I was in a position to do them. I knew I wanted to act and be involved in artistic projects. I knew that I wanted to write. I also knew that I wanted to be a leader and an example. Despite the knowledge of what I would enjoy doing, for the longest time I kept them in mind without actually going for them. Was I doomed to a life of being too "in my head" to experience a chain of moving from one happy activity to another? Was wanting to do things I enjoyed enough to get me to actually do them?
I needed more than a desire, I needed a purpose. Contrary to popular belief, a purpose isn't simply a desire to do something that you want, that's just a goal. A purpose is when you can sync up a goal with something that will help the world at large. A purpose for my acting would be to entertain people. My writing would need to bring some kind of good to my readers. I couldn't just be a leader for the sake of leading, I needed to lead followers toward something that would improve their lives. Buechner puts it well here: you need to do something you like in such a way that it helps the world.
I think that this is why so many people go out of the world with their song still inside them. They know what they want to do but they are never able to connect it to a purpose that will fulfill them. They get too caught up in paying the bills and grinding out one more day of their drab office accommodations. I realize that it feels risky to leave a job you don't like or a situation you aren't suited for that is "comfortable enough," but what's the point of living if you aren't doing it for some greater purpose?
Find what you love to do. Find a way to do it for other people. If you can accomplish those two things, you are bound to lead a much more enjoyable life.
Bryan Cohen is giving away 61 paperback and audio copies of The Post-College Guide to Happiness and a Kindle Fire between now and May 7th, 2012 on The Happiness Blog Tour. All entrants receive a free digital review copy of The Post-College Guide to Happiness. Bryan hopes to give away at least 1,000 copies during the blog tour. To enter, post a comment with your e-mail address or send an e-mail to postcollegehappiness (at) gmail.com. Bryan will draw the names at the end of the tour. Entries will be counted through Sunday, May 6th.
Bryan Cohen is a writer, actor and comedian from Dresher, Pennsylvania. He graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 2005 with degrees in English and Dramatic Art and a minor in Creative Writing. He has written nine books including 1,000 Creative Writing Prompts: Ideas for Blogs, Scripts, Stories and More, 500 Writing Prompts for Kids: First Grade through Fifth Grade, Writer on the Side: How to Write Your Book Around Your 9 to 5 Job and his new book, 1,000 Character Writing Prompts: Villains, Heroes and Hams for Scripts, Stories and More. His website Build Creative Writing Ideas helps over 25,000 visitors a month to push past writer's block and stay motivated.
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